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Open Question: My husband prefers porn to sex!?

I'm not opposed to all pornography; I watched my share as a teenager and college student, and knew that the man who's now my husband did the same thing. However, I used porn as a means to an end; as a virgin to "get release" and stay "virgin," and, once a sexually active adult, to "get release" when I was not in a relationship. When I'm in a relationship, I have no need for pornography; why watch people have sex when I can enjoy the fun myself? I compare it to watching sitcoms of people doing fun things instead of going out and living those experiences yourself. We're married! I'm 24years old, tall, slim, attractive, and I've been married for just over a year. Some people still consider that a "newlywed!" However, my husband's porn habit is affecting our sex life. While I know real life gets tiring and we don't always have the energy to have sex, he has NO problem using energy to get out the bed early in the morning and masturbate in the living room to the computer...or when he gets out of school...or in the middle of the night. Would it be so hard to "tap my shoulder" so to speak and let me know of his needs? I've tried lingerie, candles, stripteases, quickies, marathons, toys, massage sessions, public places, even had a "three's company" night over the course of our courtship and marriage. We've watched one or two flicks together. I'm neither prudish nor foolish, and I know men are visual creatures, so I stay in shape and handle my share of the domestic responsibilities while working full-time. We now have sex about once a week, sometimes once every two weeks because of my period, though I can check the computer history and see that HE has sex with the computer once a day. I've spoke to him about it before, that he can have his porn as long as he doesn't neglect MY needs, but he isn't keeping his end of the bargain. He'll be too "spent" from his movie sessions to make love to me, and has been rejecting my advances lately. We have to be intoxicated in some way for him to want me. I can't tell him "don't watch porn at all" because he'll just sneak and do it anyway in an effort to spare my feelings. But I don't want to masturbate when I have a well-endowed husband. Sex is more than the orgasm, it's the connection, the kisses, the laughter, the warmth. I get none of that with porn. So why would he prefer porn to a warm, sensual, WILLING woman? Ladies, have you experienced this? Men, can you explain to me what the rationale is? What drives a man away from his wife and to a computer screen?

Open Question: Why doesn't my husband ever want to come to bed anymore? He'll just watch the tv when I just want to hug him?

It's probably a childish thing to feel neglected or upset over, but my husband never comes to bed when he says anymore. I'll be in my nightgown and I'll say goodnight and that I love him, he says it back, then I ask if he's coming to bed and he'll say in a minute honey. Then that minute turns into hours later and by that time I'm all ready fast asleep and I don't even notice he has come in. He is always watching tv shows on the telly like Arrested development and Dexter until like three in the morning, and then he has to get up at six to head off to work. I'm twenty five to be exact, him thirty four so we're not that old and tire easily, but sometimes I just wish he'd come to bed early so we can cuddle. Instead I hear him in the other room laughing at late hours and the only way I can get to spend time with him is if I literally get out of bed and sit with him on the couch in front of the telly. Sometimes I wonder if I should hide the tv remote, I know thats nasty and cruel over something probably as insignificant as this but still!! We both work until seven at night and don't get home until a bit after nine, and I value those little moments of snuggling up together and unwinding, but its like he thinks watching dvds and tv shows are more important. Is that really selfish of me to ask? How can I get him away from the tv so we can spend some time together? I'm that desperate that I'm not above standing in front of the tv in lingerie if that is what it takes for some us time. Trust me I haven't once refused sex?? Thats partly why I want him to come to bed.

Open Question: Does this gallery remind you of any of your contacts?

This is for you Hatmanone http://nz.sports.yahoo.com/galleries/g/12830003/forget-the-superbowl-it-s-the-lingerie-bowl/12830004/

Open Question: wut is love games lingerie edition?

THEY ARE DOING IT AT MY SKOOL (COLLEGE) ND AI DONT EVEN KNOW WHAT IT IS. ???

Open Question: How can I surprise my boyfriend with lingerie?

My boyfriend and I have a long distance relationship and I'm going to visit him for Valentine's day. I bought some really cute but not TOO racey lingerie to wear, and it's not exactly something I can wear under my clothes. I know most people would say 'excuse yourself to the bathroom' but he has a room mate who is usually in the house, and while he stays away from my boyfriend's bedroom, the bathroom is near the living room area, and I don't want to be seen slinking from the bathroom to the bedroom in my underclothes. O.O

Open Question: where could i find online shop for sex toys and lingerie?

Open Question: How real is the Lingerie Football League?

I'm a novice watcher, I've seen a couple episodes, and from what I saw, those girls can play for REAL!! Seemed like the skill and moves were there. I wish it hadn't been edited so much for time sake, down to just 30 minutes. But what do you know about this show, or league? Please someone with a real opinion or actual knowledge of the show answer. Yes, obviously it's for male entertainment, my point is that the women actually DO play, and they play VERY well, they don't play like it's just for looks, out their posing, they actually kick ass like real athletes, that's why the question, maybe read the question again

Open Question: what items would a woman most likely purchase online for less?

lingerie, accessories, etc.

Open Question: Am I way off base? Or is my wife delusional...?

I asked this earlier, but wanted more response to base my decision on... Now, before anyone gets all up in arms I want to say I have my wife's permission to link the photos below. I have been married 15 years and love my wife dearly as a person and mate. However, after a few kids and a decade and a half she has gained some weight and I simply do not find her 'sexy' anymore. I love her, but physically she isn't doing it for me as far as 'desire' goes. She tries to dress sexy for me with lingerie etc. but it still doesn't matter. It's not the lingerie, but rather what's in it to be honest. She's gained about 15-20 lbs over the years and although doesn't look 'horrible' she is by no means 'sexy' any longer. She is upset with me and has agreed to let it be settled in the court of public opinion. If the majority agrees with me I will never have to look at another baby-doll nightie or fishnet body-stocking etc. again. If it turns out most don't agree with me I have promised to keep my mouth shut and just deal with it. I'll still be turned off by her but instead I'll just be forced to internalize my distaste. FYI..I love her dearly and there are NO other woman...that's not the issue here. We work out and stay fit, but she can't keep those last few pounds off. Again, I love her and couldn't live without her...but I would just like to stop having sex and seeing her undressed, in lingerie etc. Is this unreasonable?? If so, why if it's my honest opinion? http://www.flickr.com/photos/74187219@N02/with/6837747577/ http://www.flickr.com/photos/74187219@N02/with/6837747577/ May have to cut and paste it into a browser.. Edit: LizB...it isn't necessarily the lingerie, because I don't want to see her naked either... Apparently a few of you can't read, because in no way am I 'abandoning' her and I have stated very clearly I still LOVE her. I said the physical attraction is kaput...nothing else. Don't make it sound like I'm tossing her out the door. I love her and wil stay by her always, I just don't want to see her body or have sex with her... Edit: Liza...I wish it was something as easily remedied as 'low testosterone levels', but that is not the case. I still 'take care of my own business' a few times a day because I still have sexual urges and a sexual drive and would NEVER consider being unfaithful to her. But I can't bring myself to have sex with her either, needless to say it doesn't leave me any other options.

Open Question: something sexy for my guy for valentines day?

I really wanna do something special and sexy for my guy on valentines day, he means the world to me. He's taking me out to dinner, and then we're going to his place after wards. I was thinking of buying some lingerie, but i'm just blanking on how to make it a little more fun and sexy, need help!